Public speaking makes me want to curl up in a ball and cry! Can you relate? I know I’m not the only one here.
Public speaking is ranked one if the highest fears… even scarier than dying. This post is not about public speaking but let me explain how it relates to the fears we encounter when Decluttering.
I spoke to a friend who is a John Maxwell coach, about this shakiness I experience when I'm about to say something in front of many eyeballs.
I asked him, “are there breathing exercises I could do to help me master this feeling when I have to speak?”
He replied, “just breathe.” I told him I'm fine once I go for it but the leading up to it makes me want to cry.
Then he said something that hadn’t occurred to me. He said, “maybe you are worried about getting it perfect”. He suggested that I practice as much as I could until it becomes second nature.
Here’s the funny thing: Once I discovered what the real fear was, it became easier for me to face it!
That made me think about the many fears I see my clients encounter. Here are some common fears on de-cluttering you can explore when you hit a wall in your de-cluttering efforts.
Fear of getting it wrong - In other words, perfectionism. There is very little you can get wrong when it comes to getting organized.
However, it helps to know the steps to take to help you get to your desired outcome. Start with the first two steps which are to Sort, and Purge.
Then once you know what items you are left with and what actually needs to be organized, continue with a brainstorming session to nail down on what you would like it to look like and then buy the organizing solutions.
Always, focus on progress, not perfection and just get started.
Fear of not having enough or of running out - It’s the feeling you get when you see all the shirts or shoes you have and feel like you can’t part with any of them even though your space is filled to the max.
I read a quote once that stuck with me ever since. It said something like this: “The fear of not having enough is strong. But, fear does not know what is good for you. Take this feeling as an opportunity to gauge what enough feels like to you.”
I am also reminded of the Bible verse in Matthew 6:26 that says:
“See the birds of the sky, that they don’t sow, neither
do they reap, nor gather into barns. Your heavenly Father
feeds them. Aren’t you of much more value than they?”
It’s important to remember that we have been provided for and we always will be.
Fear of being wasteful or Guilt – This type of emotion comes up when you come across something that has been hiding in your closet that you purchased and didn’t use, or items gifted to you that you don’t love.
It’s important to stop for a second and analyze why you brought that item home in the first place and what you learned about yourself through not using it. This will not only help you make wiser shopping decisions but also allow you to analyze realistically whether you will use it or if it will continue in a corner.
If you are still struggling here are a few questions to help guide you. Can you get the money back? Via a return or selling? Is returning or selling the item worth your time?
Selling is a time-consuming process that involves taking proper pictures, research, listing, answering questions and inquiries, and finally meeting or waiting for the buyer.
Most often than not, it cost you more time, energy, or money to try to sell the item. Donating is the fastest way to help you restore the peace in your home.
Take advantage of the tax write off, instead.
Plus think about how liberating it will be to no longer wear or look at something that makes you feel so uncomfortable......
“Don’t follow your dreams, Chase them” That’s what the front of my planner says.
Clutter, whether it is mental or physical, can make us feel stuck and hinder us from chasing after those dreams.
Our physical world is a reflection of our mental clutter and vice versa.
That is part of the reason why organizing can be emotional, scary and life-changing all at the same time.
The thing that before and after pictures don’t show is the transformation that happens in the person.
In fact, there are photos I have on my phone, of spaces that are not Pinterest worthy but are LIFE worthy.
Spaces of real people where you can’t even see the floor or the bed, and you wonder where they sleep.
So often we think of organization as this PERFECT place you arrive to. Truth is organization is not perfect and sometimes it takes layers, other times it gets worse before it gets better.
So, as you think of getting organized, strive for BETTER, not perfect.
The following 3 (three) steps will help you get specific, keep you motivated, and help you get started on your organization goal. Be sure to print your FREE printable!
So let's get started!!!
Can you believe summer break is over and back to school season is in full force? Putting some organization in place helps make the transition easier.
This year, I was really excited to refresh my kids’ homework station and set up a few systems to manage the daily flow of school papers.
Even if your kids have already started school be sure to read along for 3 easy systems you can implement to make things run smoother in your home.
1. DESIGNATE A STUDY ZONE AND DEDICATE A CABINET OR DRAWER FOR SCHOOL SUPPLIES.
About 8 years ago, I transformed this china cabinet into a more modern piece by removing the glass doors, beefing up the shelves, and painting it white. Last year I converted it into our study area cabinet and it has worked well for us.
To get ready for this school year I de-cluttered anything old or broken, replenished our supplies and rearranged things to make them more accessible for my 1st and 6th grader.
I contained the flashcards into a container to keep them all in one place. I sorted stickers and smaller school supplies into these little drawer organizers. Their dictionary and thesaurus are sitting next to their writing, crosswords, coloring, math and other activity books where I organized them into these IKEA magazine holders. My favorite part is the green silverware caddie I re-purposed for their colored markers. Everything is accessible and labeled.
Inspiration from my hike up Yomemite's Vernal Falls
This summer, we had our first ever vacation in my family and we went to Yosemite for four days.
Wow! Is it gorgeous up there!?
We hiked up Yosemite Falls, Glacier Point and Bridal Veil Falls during our first few days.
Super-easy breathtaking hikes, the kind where you get to enjoy the journey on the way up there.
Well, on our last day we decided to try a little more difficult hike to Vernal falls.
The Yosemite pamphlet says it’s a strenuous hike.
But, it didn't faze me for some reason.
I felt emotionally ready thinking about the steep hike or so I thought.
On the way up there I started feeling out of breath, my legs hurt, my back hurt, and doubt set in.
In that moment I couldn’t help but relate to how my clients feel when they make the decision to de-clutter their lives.
One of my clients said to me one time… ”My chest feels tight; I go in and then turn around not knowing where to start.”
Having a system to keep all your receipts organized is essential for saving you time when it’s time to file. It is important to create a system that suits your style and space available. Some people prefer binders to files, for example, and that may be an option for you. Here are 4 tax organization tools that you could add to your tax prep and make your tax filing go smoother.
1. Mile IQ - Tracking your miles by hand is time-consuming and hard to remember when you start your drive. What I love most about Mile IQ is that it automatically starts tracking your drive when your car is in motion. You get an alert reminding you to classify your drive and you can write notes about that drive (even who you had that lunch meeting with). You get a report monthly and it’s very simple to generate a report for taxes. There is a free trial version and if you are ready to upgrade, here's a link for a discount. Click here
2. Small File accordion - $6.99 - Keep this small accordion file in your purse for your store receipts. Prevents receipts from swimming around in your purse or getting lost and can double as a coupon holder. Helps when you need to do store returns as well.